The eight first principles of intimate relationships:

The first principle of love is choice, not cultivation.
The first principle of intimacy is independence, not co-dependence.
The first principle of pursuit is attraction, not possession.
The first principle of attraction is subjectivity, not altruism.
The first principle of reconciliation is rebuilding, not fixing.
The first principle of trust is self-confidence, not control.
The first principle of resolving arguments is handling feelings, not judging right or wrong.
The first principle of lasting relationships is accepting him as he is, not as you wish him to be.