Why do others immediately recognize that you're an honest person?

You pay little attention to your own affairs and always expend more energy than you can afford on others' matters.
Breaking it down into two points:
1. You don't dare to explore what your core interests are. Whether working or starting a business, you tend to keep things lukewarm inside and out, not valuing your own interests much—just getting by is enough. If things become truly difficult, you don't dare to speak out and mostly endure in silence. You even avoid looking at your own interests, as if doing so would strip you of your moral high ground and the title of an honest person.
2. Severe self-objectification leads to viewing others as the self's subject, making it hard to determine what you truly want. Honest people aren't necessarily inferior; some have decent conditions, but lack confidence and courage, always feeling they are not good enough or deserving. In friendships, they don't dare to speak up, always cooperating with others, with unclear boundaries that are invaded or endured until one day everything falls apart.
In love, they don't dare to pursue it, hesitant even when the other person makes the first move, wavering and indecisive. By the time they realize, the other has already married and had children. Economic benefits are always unjustly taken: they give the most but benefit the least. The more they give for free, the more their boss thinks they lack ability. They don't dare to look outward, unaware of their own positioning and industry competitiveness, living in fear of losing their job over small pay.
Emotional value is always given freely, sacrificing oneself to please others. True friends leave after being pleased, while those who are pleased are emotional vampires.
The only solution is to reclaim the strength projected onto others. Shift your attention back to yourself, observe yourself honestly, and use a surgical precision to dismantle your psychological defenses, exploring what you truly want: actual benefits or the false reputation of being an honest, good person.